A Deep Breath

This week was not an easy one in my city. Someone took what was left of our innocence away. My Instagram was flooded with typical Bruce in the City rants as I tried to come to terms at what took place. I’m certain I won’t, but I will move forward as most people will. After we’ve all gone home however, there are families that will never be able to forget what happened that day. The horrific memories and for some the horrific loss. As one insignificant man writing what amounts to a few notable words here and there.
I wasn’t sure what I was going to write about this week so I decided to offer you a moment of calm and an introduction to a very dear friend of mine who inspired me spiritually many years ago. I’m not sure she knows she was the beginning of an amazing transformation in my life and though I lose my way from time to time her words of peace and wisdom always return to me. I’d like you to meet Janet….

Meet Rev. Janet Fotheringham mediums/clairvoyant/psychic

Janet has the ability to connect with loved ones who have crossed over, help you with past, present, and future.

Janet typically connects with a number of spirits, and through the use of images, smell, and sound, Janet is able to communicate to the best of her ability.

The best way to explain Janet’s ability is she acts as a telephone line between spirits, guides, and angels, which allows client to ask questions and provide answers.

Janet’s ability allows her to see, smell, taste, and hear spirit. Janet is often given images and/or symbols of events/objects that may have taken place. This is where Janet will provide what she has been given to you.

Janet Fotheringham discovered at a very young age that she had a special gift, “The gift of spirit and mediumship”. Janet grew up having exposure to spirit and understanding the spiritual ways of living at a young age.

Janet’s true passion is helping those in need, whatever that need may consist of. Janet has over 16 years of experience working in the field of addiction, mental health, life coaching, and counselling in the vulnerable sector. Janet has discovered her deepest desire of the natural methods of healing those in need.

Janet offers empowerment workshops, meditation to calm the mind and soothe the soul. Janet is a certified Reiki Master Teacher, a Spiritual Healer, certified in HypnoBirthing®, Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Hypnotist, Certified in 5-PATH® Hypnotherapy &
Certified 7-PATH® Self- Hypnosis Instructor.

To some her spiritual journey is unique and maybe even strange but I’ve experienced first hand the calm in which Janet’s life is directed.

There are so many ways to achieve spiritual awakening, sometimes all it takes is a helping hand to clear your mind.

I encourage you to reach out to Ms. Fotheringham. The worse thing you have to lose is your spirit of negativity.

Janet Fotheringham

Blissful Beginnings Spiritual & Wellness

1 Division Street
Bowmanville ON

905 767 8629

Message anytime


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Badass BITC Beard #30

The Badass bitc Beard contest is heating up with our final contestant for July. Get ready to vote for….

Austin! I’m a graphic designer / web developer! I promote and run a party in Portland called @daddybone_ with daddy gogo dancers! I’m an avid gamer and pro Netflix binger. I relocated to the Pacific Northwest out of the Bible belt and have never been happier! Umm… I like to tinker and build stuff. Remodel parts of the house. Sometimes it even turns out nice?!?!

There you go! The latest sexy beard all ready for you to vote for. Head on over to my official Instagram @bruceinthecity and click the heart on the pic and bio! It’s that simple.

The winner for July will be announced next Friday.


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The Stone Maidens

The Toronto summer hisses like a slithering Canadian rattler. Long days of heat and drought cause beaches and maples to be respites for the weary. Still, with each growing day of sunlight, our bodies are again filled with joy and laughter.
The winter is a distant memory and we dare to complain about the sun’s hostile take over. Soon enough the longest day of the year comes and goes but we revel in our ability to touch the earth free from its winter cocoon. Being close to the gifts of the earth are so important for our well being and positive energy flow. Let’s take the mineral lepidolite. It is a mineral of the Mica group. A “stone of transition”, lepidolite assists in the release and reorganisation of old behavioural and psychological patterns, gently inducing change. It brings deep emotional healing, soothing, and reducing stress and depression. What about amethyst? It is to some the most useful of healing crystals. Amethyst is also excellent for lucid dreaming. Additionally, fluorite protects against computer and electromagnetic stress, place a fluorite crystal at your work station to improve mental clarity and efficiency. Of course finding these earthly treasures is not always an easy task. Until these magical women popped onto the jewelry scene. Working with semi precious materials these women have created an entire labyrinth of home decor, body embellishments and mystical items of beauty to unleash the wondrous spirit in all who are empowered by the feminine mind. I met them. Very unintentionally and was immediately drawn to their hand decorative and sterling silver adornments. I was drawn to something else quite remarkable, their positive energy. It literally cascaded off them like a waterfall. I had to comment on their wares and knew immediately that these were entrepreneurs of a different calibre. Traditional and non traditional jewelry and home decor designs. Something for every woman to bring them closer to Mother Earth and embolden inner strength and beauty from within and from without. The sun may be slowly retreating but these earthly gifts from the Stone Maidens are only growing in strength and beauty all year through. May Lammas be a time of preparation for the coming days of autumn and what better way to that but to visit The Stone Maidens and awaken the magical within you.

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edited by: Mary Ellen Monk

For those of you who wish to know more about the stones The Stone Maidens Work with Here is a magical list they’ve been kind enough to share with us right here on Bruce in the City!

Clear Quartz
Quartz is a power stone that has been called a “Universal Crystal” because of its many uses. This crystal is very useful for meditation and can help you think more clearly and activate psychic energy.
Rose Quartz
Rose Quartz is said to be the love crystal, attracting love, happiness, and healing broken hearts. Rose Quartz raises self-esteem and teaches us to love ourselves. While this quartz is associated with love and romance it stimulates a sense of calm for the holder/wearer. Rose Quartz opens the heart to all types of love while clearing out negative emotions including jealousy. CHAKRA: Heart ♥ ELEMENT: Water
Labradorite is a highly protective stone. This stone helps blocks other people’s projections, by removing mental or other hooks from your aura. Labradorite is also useful in the workplace; it brings out the best in people making the atmosphere more pleasant. Intuition and intellect are balanced by Labradorite, illusions are dismissed and true intentions are seen more easily with its use. It is believed that it is beneficial for inflammatory conditions. Labradorite focuses on improving the negative side of our personality, traits and actions, which usually rob our energy.
Amethyst is a natural tranquilizer, activates spiritual awareness, helps to relieve stress and tension, soothes irritability, balances mood swings, dispels anger, rage, fear and anxiety. Amethyst is a powerful and protective stone. It guards against psychic attack, transmuting the energy into love and protecting the wearer from all types of harm, stress and ill wishes from others. It has strong healing and cleansing powers while also opens intuition.
Amethyst encourages sobriety, having a sobering effect on overindulgence of alcohol, drugs or other addictions.
Selenite is a stone of mental clarity. When there are a lot of things going on in your head and it’s starting to affect your sense of peace and quiet, selenite is a good stone to have to help you quiet your mind. It is also a stone of truth and honesty. Selenite is associated with the moon.
Blue Goldstone
“The Stone of Ambition”
Blue Goldstone provides one with wisdom, energy and courage. Assisting with learning and communication, it teaches one to see the light at the end of the darkness.
Blue Goldstone is one of the best stones for Empaths, people dealing with hypersensitivity. Associated with the Throat Chakra, it encourages acceptance of who we are.
Black Onyx
Onyx is known to separate. It can help release negative emotions such as sorrow and grief. It is used to end unhappy or bothersome relationships. Onyx jewelry is worn to defend against negativity that is directed at you. Black stones have protective energies in the sense that black is the absence of light, and therefore, can be used to create invisibility.
Black Tourmaline
Black Tourmaline is a powerful stone for protection against negative energy of all kinds as well as being a strong grounding stone. This stone will help you to release stress and if you are prone to obsessive behaviour, this stone can help you disconnect from these activities. Black Tourmaline cleanses, purifies, and transforms dense energy into a lighter vibration.
Black Obsidian
Moonstone is known for its high feminine energy. It helps to strengthen intuition, enhances creativity, compassion, and inner confidence. Moonstone helps find a balance between the mind and heart without losing the compassion needed within the wearer. This stone is protective especially of those who travel at night or by sea, when the moon is shining.
Black Moonstone
Black Moonstone has a very strong Divine Feminine energy. The energy from the dark flashes of silver and black are grounding to each individual. This stone is an emotional stone, in the sense of understanding deep emotions. Whether it is a past trauma or a fresh thought, Black Moonstone helps one understand the true meaning behind the feeling.


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Beard #29 B.I.T.C Beard Contest!


The third amazing beard for July belongs to…. Gavan! Here is this fellows fun facts.

1. Real name is Gavan, with an “A”.
2. I used to work in construction and architecture.
3. I made it to auditions for the last 50 on Great British Bake Off.
4. Originally from Ireland, but moved to Toronto after living in the U.K. for 15 years.
5. I have no formal training in baking, it’s all self-taught.

To vote for Gavan visit my official Instagram account. @bruceinthecity

Tap the heart on his solo pic as well as his bio! July is turning out to be a hot one!


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Newest Cast Member

Welcome FARZAN! Bruce in the City’s latest model and cast member! You will be hearing more about this fellow in the weeks and moths to com!

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Exciting News!!! Bruce in the City has two new official model! Daniel and Marco! You will be seeing a lot more of these dudes in the months to come!


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More Than Meets the Eye


I always say the best part of writing my blog is meeting all you really interesting people, from all walks of life. My blog is neither straight nor gay. Black or white. It’s just my little space in the world I truly feel I can call my own. For a few minutes each week I get to stop the work and sit down to write to all of you. It’s more than just the building I may enter but the relationships I end up entering as well. When I discovered one of my favourite pubs last year, I met this guy. His name is Aaron and he’s not just another handsome bar tender but an amazing listener. I don’t always enjoy going out with a bunch of people. Sometimes I love the solitude of oneness. I’m always ready to meet that new person and make a new acquaintance. Well I happened upon this bearded fellow and fellow bear and I discovered this.
Just as I was getting to know Aaron I learned he was heading off to Ottawa. I was so bummed but I’m used to that in a big city. People come and go all the time in the big city. Before he left he shared with me one of his personal passions. We all have them.
This is Aaron’s:
At about the age of six, he and those around him noticed he liked to draw on walls and, well, everything.
Throughout Aaron’s younger years, being a bigger boy, didn’t leave him with many friends. Kids can be so cruel. This gave Aaron more time to experiment with drawing and painting. He never went to art school to advance his knowledge of art. I never pressed why but I concluded Aaron is self taught. He mostly works in acrylic paint and has a passion for doing abstract pieces, big or small, doesn’t matter the size. It’s nice to know he’s not a size queen.
When the mood strikes Aaron, he is compelled to put on music and paint (he always need music). ”It breaks your focus so you don’t think about the painting, you just do it.”
Aaron works long hours (usually 12 hours) at his regular job. It leaves little time to paint so mostly it’s done on days off or during odd hours. His painting is always done at home. He sets up his easel, grabs a canvas and brush and goes to town.

Aaron’s ultimate dream is to host his own art show and have people see his works. If you want to check out more of Aaron’s beautiful work or contribute to his dream and purchase his art here are a couple contacts for him.

I wish Aaron all the best and look forward to attending the opening of his first art exhibit.



@aaroncustomart (Instagram)

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Badass B.I.T.C Beard #28


Here is your second nominee for Badass B.I.T.C Beard for July! July is certainly sizzling!

This is Tony!

I use to be a professional actor. I was born in UK but raised in Canada, I’m a good judge of character, hmmmmm! I love tops and bottoms. Flippng is the best! Hairy is hot! Passionate men make me weak.

There you have it folks! I’m not sure if he’s single but that was a killer personal ad if you ask me. Vote now by heading over to my Instagram @bruceinthecity tap the heart on his solo pic and the bio pic!

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Just Not That Good


Whether people like it or not we still live in a country that allows a person to pass their opinion on something that exhilarates them or pisses them off. This week’s blog is all about the latter.
I think in general I’m a pretty easy going fellow. I’m generally a pretty positive thinker and I don’t go out of my way to be an asshole but there is one thing I cannot tolerate, crap customer service.
I take the T.T.C every single day. Multiple times in a day. I’ve paid for two monthly passes since my moving here in 2005. One thing is for sure, the price keeps going up and the customer service keeps going down.
The company can give me every excuse in the book but those bus drivers are really miserable people. Now don’t start throwing insults just yet. I have also met a handful of people who really do an incredible job! There’s one fellow who is always cracking jokes every time the station announcements go off. It’s amazing. There have been a couple of ladies that really go out of their way to welcome you aboard. There’s another fellow who takes time to explain to the kids how the bus works. Sadly though these people are few and far between.
I’ve posted numerous concerns on the T.T.C customer service Twitter account but I’m told to call in my concerns. I wonder to myself what that Twitter account is for. Clearly not concerns! Anyway, I did what they asked and called in my concerns and I have to tell you the person on the other end of the phone sounded like she actually cared. She took the information and thanked me for my call. I know the driver’s job is not easy. Customer service is not easy, but it is what they signed up for and so it’s their lot in life so let’s step it up. The truth is it’s just not great. For the most part they are a visitor’s first “go to” once they have gotten into the city and start their touring around. The transit system here with all the construction is a nightmare. Hell I’ve been taking this system for more than a decade and with all the construction I sometimes have no idea where I should stand! Being abused by customers is never okay but I’d say most of us are just trying to get around and need some thoughtful help to do so. I’m in customer service. I get that customers can be demanding but that never authorizes a poor responses from the employee. And just in case you want to go there, this is not a white privilege thing as some idiots posted on my Twitter account. I can’t stand when people go to these cliches. I’ve seen time and time again people of minority being spoken to very poorly by the drivers and with there smaller English vocabulary, in some cases they literally have to accept the way they’re being spoken to. I even heard a supervisor talk disparagingly about those drunk Indians. It’s gross. People have mentioned that with my experience I should apply for the TTC customer service but unfortunately that’s not a beast I’d want to be a part of. I’m not sure who could fix their image problem but one thing is for sure, they could not pay me enough. I will keep calling and speaking on behalf of myself and people who may not feel strong enough to speak up for themselves. It is a problem and it’s time for it to be addressed! I’d give them 1 kiss out of 5 on customer service but I’ll check in again with you folks to let you know how they’re doing!



Edited by Mary Ellen Monk

A word from the editor

I’m grateful for my peaceful drive in my private car every day! And my commute is 15 minutes!
I give people credit that sit in Toronto traffic for hours on a daily basis. They are much stronger people than I.

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